I am confused and befuddled. I have a “friend” that misquotes me and labels me. She has “figured out” who I am and put me in a box, labeled me and that is who I am; according to her. I argue her definition. It doesn’t matter. According to her, I just need to be okay with it. Really?
According to her, I always have someone in my life that there is drama with. I am not sure that is exactly how I would put my life. I am going through a divorce, we did put our son in intervention some years ago, and oh yeah, i left my soon-to-be ex husband’s family business that I helped run for 18 years. So, I think a little “drama” as she puts it, is also part of what my life has offered me lately. Or more accurately, what I have created lately.
This friend is no longer married, has no children or family of her own and tells me I like drama. Well, maybe. But for some reason, I really don’t like that idea much. I like joy. I like happiness. I life fun and laughter. Drama is not on any of my lists. And I don’t really think it is on anyone else’s either. Yet, I am also okay with a certain amount of drama. I think “drama”, or life’s little upsets is what teaches us. It’s where we grow and mature and learn who we are and what we are made of.
I think there is a difference in going out and looking and creating a bunch of drama, and just dealing with what shows up for ourselves. Gossips are drama people. I am not a gossip. I do not intentionally “stir the pot” or create what I call evil triangles. (When person A just has to tell person C what person B said).
As I write this I am pretty clear that my issue with all of this is the judge and jury. I have a right to be the judge and jury of my own life. So do you. But to be the judge and jury of someone else’s life? No, I don’t think so. My “friend” has a right to keep me out of her life based on her opinions. And I have a right to move on to people who don’t find it necessary to label me and put me in a box and watch for signs that confirm their label. That doesn’t feel healthy or friendly to me. How about you?
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